Post by mountzion on Sept 5, 2012 4:11:25 GMT 1
I notice a trend on this message board that I kind of hoped that we would collectively be above here....that is, blaming Rohan Marley for any and everything we think Ms. Hill does that is not favorable to us (or her).
I don't know dude personally, though I did shake his hand once, but ummm...what is this seixst (yes, sexist) crap that says a woman is not capable of being held responsible for herself and her actions?
How is the man a woman is seeing responsible for everything the woman thinks and feels? I see this trend in my smaller community and I think it is sick and sad. It actually equates the woman with an immature, incompetent child! When you place no responsibility on a woman for herself you are saying: "She is merely a female, you can't expect her to be able to make decisions for herself? You can't expect a stupid woman with her naturally inferioir intellect to be able to say, "NO" She can't possibly be expected torecognize a bad influence! She is just a dumb chick who can't control her childish emotions and therefore cannot be expected to match wits with the like a of the intellectually and emotionally superior man!
I realize that people are not doing this to say Lauryn Hill is stupid, but if you think she was horribly victimized without her consent, I am willing to bet you are mistaken!
I read a lot of posts where folks incinuate things about Mr. Rohan Marley that NONE OF YOU HAS ANY PROOF OF WHATSOEVER! That is so CRAZY!
I usually don't say anything, but even though they are not together anymore, folks are still regularly making references to how she is better without him, simply BECAUSE she is without him blah, blah.
Lauryn Hill is and has been for several years now, A GROWN ASS WOMAN? If she didn't like anything that was going on, not only is she grown, and VERY intelligent, and has had offers from hella dudes, but has money and could have LEFT at any given time!
I, for one, believe a woman is capable of using the left side of her brain, and thinking.
We have no evidence that anything extreme was going on. We have no logical reason to blame him for anything excpt that we want to demonize him because society says it is ok to do that to men! We want to view Ms. Hill as a helpless victim because society says women are supposed to be the victims.
I call bullshit. If the shoe fits let them wear it. But if you don't even know where the shoe store is, you probably should bite your tongue!
If a smart sister like Lauryn had 5 children with him over the course of 12+ years, it is her business why. And because I give HER credit, I should only assume he is a descent person and father, even if the two of them were not compatible in a traditional western sense! He has given us no REAL reason to believe otherwise!
Ms. Hill is not perfect. Even IF he had major issues, if she stayed, HER ASSS SIGNED UP TO DEAL WITH IT! If she's not bitching about what an not a very nice person he was/is, why should we?
Some of you went IN on ole boy when you heard he got engaged...ummm excuse me, wasn't his engagement AFTER SHE GOT PREGNANT BY ANOTHER MAN!! WTH!? Let's assume he started dating the day after they seperated...she STILL got him beat! He doesn't have other kids...just a girlfriend! LOL!
Then some people acted like he never gave Lauyn a ring. BS again. She was rocking a ring publicly for quite a while during the mised years! She admitted after Rohan almost got burnt up in that BMW that she was the one who had been putting off marriage. And she claimed that after she almost lost him, she would make it official!
And even IF he nver offered to marry her or gave her a ring (neither of which is true), IS LAURYN SO RETARDED SHE WOULD STAY IF SHE IN FACT WANTED TO GET MARRIED (by Western standards/laws) IN THE FIRST PLACE! Of course not!!!
So give the woman you all SAY is a genious some damned credit. Stop bashing ole boy for no good reason other than you're jealous she loved him and not you! LOL (j/k...sort of)! Maybe they simply get on eac other's nerves like most couples who break up....and HER issues (whatever they are OR ARE NOT) are in fact, HER issues!
*gets off soapbox*
Check your thoughs and motives. Unahmean?
I don't know dude personally, though I did shake his hand once, but ummm...what is this seixst (yes, sexist) crap that says a woman is not capable of being held responsible for herself and her actions?
How is the man a woman is seeing responsible for everything the woman thinks and feels? I see this trend in my smaller community and I think it is sick and sad. It actually equates the woman with an immature, incompetent child! When you place no responsibility on a woman for herself you are saying: "She is merely a female, you can't expect her to be able to make decisions for herself? You can't expect a stupid woman with her naturally inferioir intellect to be able to say, "NO" She can't possibly be expected torecognize a bad influence! She is just a dumb chick who can't control her childish emotions and therefore cannot be expected to match wits with the like a of the intellectually and emotionally superior man!
I realize that people are not doing this to say Lauryn Hill is stupid, but if you think she was horribly victimized without her consent, I am willing to bet you are mistaken!
I read a lot of posts where folks incinuate things about Mr. Rohan Marley that NONE OF YOU HAS ANY PROOF OF WHATSOEVER! That is so CRAZY!
I usually don't say anything, but even though they are not together anymore, folks are still regularly making references to how she is better without him, simply BECAUSE she is without him blah, blah.
Lauryn Hill is and has been for several years now, A GROWN ASS WOMAN? If she didn't like anything that was going on, not only is she grown, and VERY intelligent, and has had offers from hella dudes, but has money and could have LEFT at any given time!
I, for one, believe a woman is capable of using the left side of her brain, and thinking.
We have no evidence that anything extreme was going on. We have no logical reason to blame him for anything excpt that we want to demonize him because society says it is ok to do that to men! We want to view Ms. Hill as a helpless victim because society says women are supposed to be the victims.
I call bullshit. If the shoe fits let them wear it. But if you don't even know where the shoe store is, you probably should bite your tongue!
If a smart sister like Lauryn had 5 children with him over the course of 12+ years, it is her business why. And because I give HER credit, I should only assume he is a descent person and father, even if the two of them were not compatible in a traditional western sense! He has given us no REAL reason to believe otherwise!
Ms. Hill is not perfect. Even IF he had major issues, if she stayed, HER ASSS SIGNED UP TO DEAL WITH IT! If she's not bitching about what an not a very nice person he was/is, why should we?
Some of you went IN on ole boy when you heard he got engaged...ummm excuse me, wasn't his engagement AFTER SHE GOT PREGNANT BY ANOTHER MAN!! WTH!? Let's assume he started dating the day after they seperated...she STILL got him beat! He doesn't have other kids...just a girlfriend! LOL!
Then some people acted like he never gave Lauyn a ring. BS again. She was rocking a ring publicly for quite a while during the mised years! She admitted after Rohan almost got burnt up in that BMW that she was the one who had been putting off marriage. And she claimed that after she almost lost him, she would make it official!
And even IF he nver offered to marry her or gave her a ring (neither of which is true), IS LAURYN SO RETARDED SHE WOULD STAY IF SHE IN FACT WANTED TO GET MARRIED (by Western standards/laws) IN THE FIRST PLACE! Of course not!!!
So give the woman you all SAY is a genious some damned credit. Stop bashing ole boy for no good reason other than you're jealous she loved him and not you! LOL (j/k...sort of)! Maybe they simply get on eac other's nerves like most couples who break up....and HER issues (whatever they are OR ARE NOT) are in fact, HER issues!
*gets off soapbox*
Check your thoughs and motives. Unahmean?