Incest, Rape, and Molestation Feb 10, 2017 19:26:02 GMT 1
Post by true2u on Feb 10, 2017 19:26:02 GMT 1
Incest, Raped, and molestation.
Why would one turn to their own siblings, kinfolk, cousin etc. and seek sexual pleasures? Today our lesson will come from 2 Samuel 13 chapter 1-22. This story involved a half- brother that had “fallen in love ? with his half- sister Tamar.
Amnon and Tamar
13 In the course of time, Amnon son of David fell in love with Tamar,the beautiful sister of Absalom son of David.
2 Amnon became so obsessed with his sister Tamar that he made himself ill. She was a virgin, and it seemed impossible for him to do anything to her.
3 Now Amnon had an adviser named Jonadab son of Shimeah, David’s brother. Jonadab was a very shrewd man. 4 He asked Amnon, “Why do you, the king’s son, look so haggard morning after morning? Won’t you tell me?”
Amnon said to him, “I’m in love with Tamar, my brother Absalom’s sister.”
5 “Go to bed and pretend to be ill,” Jonadab said. “When your father comes to see you, say to him, ‘I would like my sister Tamar to come and give me something to eat. Let her prepare the food in my sight so I may watch her and then eat it from her hand.’”
6 So Amnon lay down and pretended to be ill. When the king came to see him, Amnon said to him, “I would like my sister Tamar to come and make some special bread in my sight, so I may eat from her hand.”
7 David sent word to Tamar at the palace: “Go to the house of your brother Amnon and prepare some food for him.” 8 So Tamar went to the house of her brother Amnon, who was lying down. She took some dough, kneaded it, made the bread in his sight and baked it. 9 Then she took the pan and served him the bread, but he refused to eat.
“Send everyone out of here,” Amnon said. So everyone left him.10 Then Amnon said to Tamar, “Bring the food here into my bedroom so I may eat from your hand.” And Tamar took the bread she had prepared and brought it to her brother Amnon in his bedroom. 11 But when she took it to him to eat, he grabbed her and said, “Come to bed with me, my sister.”
12 “No, my brother!” she said to him. “Don’t force me! Such a thing should not be done in Israel! Don’t do this wicked thing. 13 What about me? Where could I get rid of my disgrace? And what about you? You would be like one of the wicked fools in Israel. Please speak to the king; he will not keep me from being married to you.” 14 But he refused to listen to her, and since he was stronger than she, he raped her.
15 Then Amnon hated her with intense hatred. In fact, he hated her more than he had loved her. Amnon said to her, “Get up and get out!”
16 “No!” she said to him. “Sending me away would be a greater wrong than what you have already done to me.”
But he refused to listen to her. 17 He called his personal servant and said, “Get this woman out of my sight and bolt the door after her.”18 So his servant put her out and bolted the door after her. She was wearing an ornate robe, for this was the kind of garment the virgin daughters of the king wore. 19 Tamar put ashes on her head and tore the ornate robe she was wearing. She put her hands on her head and went away, weeping aloud as she went.
20 Her brother Absalom said to her, “Has that Amnon, your brother, been with you? Be quiet for now, my sister; he is your brother. Don’t take this thing to heart.” And Tamar lived in her brother Absalom’s house, a desolate woman.
21 When King David heard all this, he was furious. 22 And Absalom never said a word to Amnon, either good or bad; he hated Amnon because he had disgraced his sister Tamar.
The beginning of this passage offers some insight of Amnon’s mindset. It shows that this wasn’t a spontaneous or impulsive desire but it was thought about over an extended period of time. This reminds me of the passage in James 1chapter 13-18.
13 When tempted, no one should say, “God is tempting me.” For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone; 14 but each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed. 15 Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death.
16 Don’t be deceived, my dear brothers and sisters. 17 Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows. 18 He chose to give us birth through the word of truth, that we might be a kind of firstfruits of all he created.
• Amnon looked at his sister and her beauty got the best of him. He had desired for this intimacy so long that he had actually become sick.
• He didn’t see how this would be possible. A. he knew she was his sister B She was a virgin and the consequences of losing her virginity.
• His countenance was so distraught that his adviser, (kinfolk) gave him instruction on how to carry out this sinful act.
• Immediately after he had sex with his sister, he despised her and wanted nothing more to do with her. He had her put out and left to deal with the shame and disgrace alone.
• Absalom attempt to defend her honor only added sin to sin and she was the bible declared, desolate as she lived in her brother’s Absalom’s house.
The bible does not discuss the detail of the pain and shame and how the rest of Tamar life was; but the fact that desolate is used to describe her condition is enough to allow us to know the pain associated with being victim of someone's desires and not wanting to carry this stain and to add insult to injury, she was despised and left alone to deal with this shame.
To all those who have been molested, raped, and experience incest at the hand of a family member, don't blame yourself. Maybe when it was discovered by those who should have come to your rescue like David, Tamar's father, and it was left without remedy and murder or shame was or has been your lot in life. Jesus came to heal the broken heart.
* Know this that He bored your pain on the cross to set you free from the bondage of sin. Yes, He knows and cares about you. You are forgiven if you have made Him your Lord and Saviour.
Father, we thank you that you sent your son Jesus to die for all sins and you came that we could be restored and know that we are loved by the one who died for the sins of the whole world. Thank you, Father, for taking away the hurt, pain, and shame of sin. Thank you for setting us free and whom the Son set free is free indeed. Faith comes by hearing and hearing the word of God. Only believe.